Check out this interaction with a complete stranger. I help get them two releases. One was a filter and one was a projection. Check out the un-edited interaction below:
You: yo yo yo
Stranger: Tell if someone is ugly
Stranger: in a pic
Stranger: can you tell
You: you said you are interested in therapy, right?
You: I have figured out some things about psychology and therapy that have helped me a lot and I want to share them with others.
You: Its easier to show you then tell you
You: but we need something that is bothering you
You: to work on
You: do you have a topic?
Stranger: Like anything
You: if its on your mind
You: then yes
Stranger: personal isosues
You: yeah whatever
Stranger: oh ok
Stranger: im ugly
You: ok perfect
You: thank you for sharing
You: and I am sorry
Stranger: its ok
You: when do you think about that you are ugly?
You: is it all the time or are there moments in particular where you think about it more
Stranger: When im on tiktok
You: ok so ehn you are not on tiktok you dont think about it
You: but when you are on tiktok you think about it
Stranger: when im with friends i forget
You: what about when you are alone?
You: just watching a show or something
Stranger: If im focused no
Stranger: If im on tiktok or social medias open yes
You: Ok when you think about that you are ugly, are there any other thoughts or emotions that accompany it?
You: what else
Stranger: for which
You: what other thoughts and emotions come with the thought that you are ugly
Stranger: frustration and jealousy and anger
Stranger: and sadness
You: Ok so do you think about that you are ugly when you see people who are more attractive on tiktok? we have to pinpiont what exactly causes teh thoughts
You: before we apply the technique
Stranger: When i see people talk about their dating experiences or see them post their videos It comes more
Stranger: on tiktok
Stranger: And i read the comments and i see people compliment the attractive people
You: Ok lets just try a filter
You: So on one hand you have ugly. And there are a bunch of things that go along with being ugly and on the other hand you have attracive and attrictive peopl get compliments etc
You: in your mind theres that spectrum
You: Ok so the technique is to reflect on every person you ever encounter and see if your mind has catagorized them as either ugly or attractive
You: and to see if there is a judgement of others based on this as well
You: so can you tink about 3-6 people that you may not have otherwised thougth about hteir looks and uncover taht your mind has categorized them?
You: AS either attractive or not attractive
Stranger: Hmm okay
Stranger: Like my friends
You: we are trying to catch your mind always making these catagorizations
You: even when you didn’t think you were doing it
You: like I bet
You: each friend you have catagorized as iether attractive or not
You: but you may not be fully aware you are doing htis so you have to reflect and see if you have
Stranger: I have 5 of them are attractive 1 wasnt
You: Do you think everyone you ever meet there is a subtle part of your mind that makes a mental note of their attractiveness?
Stranger: I feel it
You: Do you still feel as “tense” about being ugly? Is it as much on your mind? If this worked, it shoudl feel a little less “charged”
You: liek some of the tension was taken out of it
Stranger: I dont feel as tense but i still feel sad
Stranger: About it
You: Ok thats good so we got rid of some of the tension but there is still some sadness around it. When you think of the sadness what else comes to mind?
You: actually first… Does the sadness corrospond with tiktok as well?
You: or is there other things that trigger teh sadness?
Stranger: When i see really attractive people and I do on tiktok
Stranger: Because i think its unfair i didnt ask to look like this and i got unlucky but they got lucky and people treat them superior to me
You: Ok lets try something… Just be open to this. “I am upset iwth myself because I treat good looking people superior to ugly people”
You: Can you find times in your life where you treated better looking people better than ugly people?
Stranger: No i dont think so I try to be nice to everyone always
Stranger: Because its not their fault
You: What about this one. I treat myself as inferior because of my looks?
You: can you reflect on that
You: and see if that is true
You: when you think about that idea “I treat myself as inferior because of my looks” does it feel like something
You: like hmmm
You: like a release or a ha or interesting… Like makes you think inwardly
Stranger: It feels weird
You: That is good. It is a release
Stranger: Like im like the jerks
Stranger: But to myself
Stranger: But its better than lying to myself
You: Do you feel as sad right now as you did a moment ago?
Stranger: I feel weird
You: if this worked it should feel less so…
You: Ok the weirdness is good
Stranger: Well i was tearing but now i stopped
You: That is good
You: thats the sadness actually being processed
You: so I am thinking
You: that now you wont feel as bad as you did moments ago
You: as sad
You: does it feel a little better?
Stranger: If i think about that idea
Stranger: That i treat myself inferior
You: So you have to thiknk about that idea
You: until you stop feeling emotional about it
You: I believe that is the root of the sadness that you are feeling
You: so you have to process that and reflect on it. Think of all the times and ways you treat yourself as inferior
You: and it sorta burns off as you reflect on it
You: make sense?
Stranger: It does
You: and when it burns off completely, you wont feel as sad as you were a few minutes ago
Stranger: Oh okay
You: are you feeling a bit better now? I am curious where you are at
Stranger: Im thinking of the times i treat myself inferior
You: btw, by making it conscious that you do htis, you will start to not do it , so its a good thing
Stranger: I avoid talking to a lot of people if theyre attractive
Stranger: Like groups
Stranger: Because im not good enough
You: Yes that is a part of this
You: do you still feel emotional thinking about the idea?
You: it usually take a minhute or two to burn off
Stranger: Im feeling calmer
You: good work. Thank you for giving this a try!
You: I think we released 2 different things and hopefully you feel better
You: NP. See ya