Check out this chat I had with a complete stranger on Omegle. I helped them get two releases. One about not accepting themselves and one about overthinking.
You: We both are interested in therapy
Stranger: This is true.
You: What interests you about it?
Stranger: Probably just how a person can change so easily by hearing advice from one person
Stranger: Or that they just need someone to say something so they can donit
Stranger: Do it*
You: yeah that is cool. Has your life ever been changed by hearing advice like that?
Stranger: No not yet.
Stranger: I haven’t gone to therapy yet, but I think it would be a good idea.
You: The reason I am actually on here is that I have figured out some things about psychology and therapy that have helped me a lot and I want to share them with others.
You: Are you open to giving it a try?
Stranger: Yeah sure
You: Ok cool. In order to do this we need a topic. It should be something that is on your mind. Could be something that cuases anxiety, sadness, or thoughts you dont want
You: or even triggers or people who make you upset
You: do you have a topic?
Stranger: Yeah, my personality and how it’s inconsistent
You: Thats a great topic
You: Ok so what do you mean by inconsistent? Can you be more specific?
Stranger: So like
Stranger: I feel like I change a lot through out the week
Stranger: And through the day
Stranger: Personality wise
Stranger: Like some days I’m funnier and look at thing differently
Stranger: Like one day my outlook on something is a lot different that’s what it was the day before
Stranger: But this turns into a sort of repetitive thing
Stranger: Where I’m having the same realizations
You: Where does the negativity come in? Why is this something you want to change?
You: btw I am asking qeustions because we have to pinpoint something that we can then apply the technique to
Stranger: I would say it’s because I’m worried that I wouldn’t do well in a relationship
Stranger: There’s a person that is interested in me and I’m worried that my sudden changes might affect that
You: Ok so it sounds like there are no issues with you having those changes except that it may affect a relationship. Like if you met someone who totallya ccepted you, there would be no issue. Is that right?
You: Ok now when you say worry, what exactly does that mean? It’s helpful to know what thoughts youa re having and any sensations you have in the body (tension, etc)
You: what makes up the worry you experience?
Stranger: Yeah I definitely feel more tense at certain times but I don’t think the tension is about anything specific
You: If the tension comes at certain times and leaves at other times, there must be soem external trigger that causes it.
You: If you reflect on say the past few days, can you pinpoint something?
You: maybe it could be interacting with the opposite sex or soemthing related to relationships
You: watching a show or something… Just trying to jog ideas
Stranger: I think I’m just tense and then I stop myself
Stranger: I’m just an uptight person
You: What thoughts coincide with the tension?
Stranger: But I can stop it
Stranger: Probably just constantly overthinking in general
You: what do you overthink about
Stranger: Everything, I guess. Mostly interactions, conversations etc
You: ok good interactions with others
You: even same sex?
You: Do the thoughts come afte rthe interaction, before or during?
Stranger: All of the above
Stranger: Unless I don’t know the interaction is going to happen
You: Ohhh so if anything is spontaneous it doesnt cuase overthinking
You: but a planned interaction is different?
You: Ok lets try 2 things.
You: First thing
You: You said you were worried that a partner wouldnt accept you becuase of your mood changes.
You: The technique is a turnaorund. “I am worried I wont accept myself because of my mood changes”. Can you read this and see if there is some truth in it
You: Or… I am worried I wont accept someone else if their moods changes
You: do either of those statements resonate. It should feel like an “ah ha” or kinda make you think a little
Stranger: Yeah the first one
You: ok great
You: so just reflect on the first statement
You: maybe read it a few times. By becoming aware of this it can release
You: and you will feel better
You: So checking in… do you feel as worried about a partner not accepting you right now as you did before we talked?
You: that is excellent
You: do you think you still will overthink conversations? I have an idea for that one as well
Stranger: Mostly while it’s happening.
You: It would be very helpful to know what kind of thoughts you think while having a conversation
Stranger: Just basically “I am having a conversation”
Stranger: It sucks
Stranger: Because then I’m not thinking about talking to the person
You: So the thought “I am having a conversation” causes tension
You: its like an extra layer of thought?
You: during a conversation
Stranger: Yeah totally
You: and where is the tension in your body
You: while this is happening?
You: chest, gut, throat?
Stranger: Chest for sure
You: Ok. and now you are pretty sure its happening during the conversation? More than before or after
Stranger: I mean I do think about thinking about the thinking while having the conversation afterwards
Stranger: It gets confusing lol
You: thats ok
You: but it is mostly for planned conversations right?
You: istead of spontaneous ones?
Stranger: I mean it takes longer to kick in for the spontaneous ones I’d say
You: ok lets just try this and see if it works.
You: you don’t have to tell me what the event is, but I am going to write a few things and let me know if a memory comes to you from the past.
You: Can you think of a time when you knew you were going to have a conversation. You were very worried about that conversation. There was tension in your chest. And you were thinking “I am having a conversation”. What was the first time you ever experienced this?
You: when you find the original event, you may also feel some emotion. it could be growing up, first friend, first girl you talked to
You: something that corrosponds with that information.
Stranger: Yeah so I think this is a very new thing
Stranger: I only started doing it like last year
You: do you remember the first time?
Stranger: Maybe it was with a friend or something but I don’t remember
You: ok thank you for giving that a try
You: when you are having a conversation and you are overthinking, what do you think you’re worried about?
You: I would guess you are overthinking because you are worried about something
You: how it goes or somethign like that
Stranger: It’s basically just worrying about overthinking now
Stranger: It’s weird
You: Did you ever lose a friend or a partner becuase you were overthinking?
You: maybe this started becuase of a consequence from overthinking
You: or maybe you saw someone else experience a consequence from overthinking
You: jsut some other ideas to explore
Stranger: Oh wait hold up
Stranger: I think I remember the first time
Stranger: Like it really started
Stranger: It was with a friend who I hadn’t hung out with in a while at the time
Stranger: A few years ago
Stranger: And we used to have a really good dynamic
Stranger: And I went over to her house for the first time in a while
Stranger: But i was thinking
Stranger: About what I was saying
Stranger: It was boring
You: That is important to remember
You: So by remembering this experience, do you feel something “shift” in your mind?
You: like sometimes its an ah ha
You: you said oh wait oh wait
You: because thats a sign we may have had another relase
Stranger: Yeah probably
You: ok great. so you may want to reflect on the time you met with your friend and you were thinkingw hat you were saying is boring. The more you can remember and relive that experience the better
You: but only need to do it a few minutes maybe not even at all
You: I am hoping you stop thinking about thinkign now 🙂
You: what do you think?
Stranger: Yeah that was cool, thanks
You: np. If you want to learn more or read up on this, my website is tylerrustin.com
You: I am hoping to one day help people for my job. Right now I work in sales lol
Stranger: Oh lol
You: I appreciate you taking the time.
You: Take care
Stranger: I hope you can find a job in this, your great
Stranger: Good luck
You: thank you. let me know if you want help with more things.
Stranger has disconnected.