You: Hi
Stranger: Hello
You: We are both interested in psychology
You: what interests you?
Stranger: I am learning about it
Stranger: It is an interesting subject to learn about mind.
You: Yes I agree…
You: I have figured out some things about psychology and therapy that have helped me a lot and I want to share them with others. Open to giving it a try?
Stranger: Sure
You: Ok cool. In order to do this, we need a topic. It should be something that is on your mind. Could be something that causes anxiety, sadness, or thoughts you don’t want
Stranger: Insecurity
You: Ok good topic. In order for this process to work, we have to be really specific. Can you share specirfically how insecurity shows up in yoru mind?
You: Like the thoughts you have
Stranger: It creates this fear that no one likes me
You: Ok so you have the thought “no one likes me”. Any other thoughts or things to share about the feeling you are having?
You: The more thoughts we have to work with the more likely this will work
Stranger: That I repel people
You: Ok and is this all people? Or is there a certain situation where its more present?
Stranger: No certain situation , it is all the people
You: Ok thank you for sharing. Anything else I should know before we try a few things?
You: about this feeling?
You: and thoughts?
Stranger: No that’s all
You: Ok lets try a few things. We are looking for something to “click”
You: youll know if something clicks
Stranger: Okay
You: Step 1 is turnarounds
You: No one likes me -> I dont like me
You: I repel people -> I repel myself
You: “I dont like anyome”
You: Thats all I could think of… any clicks?
Stranger: Yes, I don’t like anymore that I don’t like me
You: Ok the clicks are good
You: it may feel uncomfortabel at first
You: but it means something is releasing
You: So whatever clicked, just focus on that for a bit and try to reflect on it
You: see where it shows up and gain awareness around it. let me know when you have done that
Stranger: Okay
You: Ok now befoe we got to the next step I want to check in
Stranger: What is Step 2
You: “no one likes me”
“I repel people”
You: ^ do those thoughts feel the same to you ?
You: as they did when we started
Stranger: No
You: So that “shift” could mean we resolved that particular though pattern. Usually that means step 2 is not necessary
You: How do you feel?
Stranger: I still feel the same
You: Ok, you still feel insecure?
Stranger: Yes
You: Ok and now when you think about your insecurity, are there different thoughts?
You: or the same ones?
Stranger: Step 1 helped but it is not 100%
Stranger: No, same thoughts
You: Ok lets try step 2, although we have limited data for it. Lets just see if something comes to mind
You: Step 2…
Stranger: Okay
Stranger: Thank you
You: Can you think of a time when you repelled a person. They didnt like you. And it hurt you
You: If this works a memory will come to mind…
You: You shouldnt have to think too hard
Stranger: Yes
You: Ok 1 memory or multiple?
Stranger: Multiple
You: Ok now you want to reflect on all the memories of this happening
You: Do any of the memories contain emotion?
You: like makes you feel uncomfortable to think it
Stranger: Yes
You: Ok so usually that discomfort is unprocessed and so its been kinda sitting in your mind. By dealing with the memories directly (the source of the discomfort) you can process it
You: So you have to reflect on teh uncomfortable memories until they process. It doesnt take too long
You: 1 min
You: The goal is to be able to think about the memorys that are uncomfortable long enough that the discomfort burns off in a sense or processes
Stranger: Okay
You: let me know when you’ve done that
You: take your time
Stranger: Done
You: Ok lets check in
You: “no one likes me”
“I repel people”
You: ^ do they feel different?
You: the thoughts
Stranger: Yes
You: thats good. Tell me about it? I am curious to hear from you
Stranger: I like myself and I do not care if someone doesn’t like me
You: You feel better?
Stranger: Yes
You: Thank you for giving this a try
Stranger: Thank you